So sad Ollie, I had to go to a funeral of a friend recently, a very sudden death. She was a lovely person and I just wore my usual clothes and bought a huge bunch of sunflowers because they reminded me of her, always smiling and laughing. Her family all wore different colours - normal clothes but not scruffy, her daughters were in pretty summery dresses. It was a lovely occasion, no vicar just the family, sweet and natural.
Just be yourself and remember your mate!
Gordonsveg - glad the funeral went well, my best wishes to you and your family at this dreadful time.
Lushy x