Gutted

[MrsKP]

I think it was more us girlies sticking together and closing ranks round our pal, rather than LittleGem hanging him out.

I'm sure he's a positively wonderful chap, but our mate is hurting and we do love sharpening a set of knives !

Aye bring him in LittleGem and we can give him some gardening hints !!!

;D

[MrsKP]

[worldor]

Hello Littlegem

Sorry to hear that you are at a bad time in your life. Leaving is a difficult thing to do. I don't agree with all the revenge theories. I would suggest that you keep your mind above all that and remember this little quote.

What the catapillar perceives is the end, to the butterfly, is just the beginning

I wish you much happiness in the future

[gerbera]

Sorry to hear about your trauma!

If you fancy a bit of therapy......and have the time to do so whilst arranging to move house......there are plenty of things you could sow now for late summer / autumn harvests in your new house.

I first got into veg growing after I split from my abusive ex. I was 8 1/2 months pregnant at the time! Watching the seedlings emerge (and of course...the arrival of my little boy!) really helped me to stay positive about fresh starts and new beginnings.

If you need any seed to get you going...let me know.....I have a stack of things ready to be sown over the next couple of weeks!

Good Luck!

[Squashfan]

Well, littlegem, best of luck. I had a friend who lost his garden after a split a year or two ago, and he has now just moved into a new house with an even fabbier garden. Lots of lovely plants and plenty of room to put in a veg patch! You'll find another row to hoe...  :)

[Paulines7]

So sorry to hear of your break up Littlegem.  Breaking up can be very traumatic but I am sure that once this initial period is over you will be much happier.   If you can get back to the garden when he is not there, at least you can reap some of the rewards from all your hard work.   ;D

The future will be bright ahead.  You are only 32 and have the World at your feet.  Far better to split up now than to live in an unhappy relationship for the rest of your life. 

Let us know when you are settled into your new address and give us a list of what seeds you would like for next year. 

Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs.   

[kitty]

1)I was going to keep out of this, sad as it is, but I just can't sit back and watch this poor bloke get hung drawn and quartered on the internet.

2)littlegem, why not bring in your ex and allow him to put his side of the story? Just to even it up a little.

3)You really shouldn’t air your dirty laundry in public.

4)He may be a very nice guy, for all we know.

1)he's not-he's just getting battered with words-far better-and easier from him!

2)if he's not here already he aint a gardener therefore he's already on the losing side!

3)i like seeing peoples smalls!-interesting frilly apparel is always a treat to us who dont get out much....and-to be fair-lg was just appraising us of the situation-i'm sure she could have gone into FAR greater depth than she has...

4)roy! ::)the mans a donkeys bottom!face it-if he's letting a cracking gardner like lg get away he wants his bumps felt!

its always better to get things off yer chest 'virtually' than by actually carrying out your deepest darkest fantasies-so i think lg's mature enough to know that ..much as weedbustas ideas are excellent ,it would only lead to more trouble-....but a girl can dream! ;D ;)
kitty
xx

[landgirl]

Sorry Littlegem. It's tough I know. Whatever happens, cherish your growing skills and personal motivation/intuition! I would also, if you can, request visiting rights as suggested earlier to go harvest/collect seeds. Best wishes to you x

[landgirl]

Actually thinking about this subject a little more....( i initally didn't read all responses) and without wanting to put more of a downer on little gem's situation, but i have to ask the question; Do we as gardeners preoccupy ourselves Sooo much with our plants, seasons and tasks etc that we sometime neglect to put as much effort into other areas of our lives such as interactions with other people around us? Just a thought

[MrsKP]

guilty as charged but at least he knows where I am and what i'm doing.  ;D

[kitty]

guilty too! ;D
but-
a)he can always help(and sometimes does bless 'im!
and
b)in my case if the little tinker feels neglected he only has to bellow out the window!

i cant think littles gems has caused the break up thru excessive gardening...
the mind boggles...
but my mind easily boggles!
kitty

[moonbells]

Guilty, but mine plays obsessive computer games!!!

Neither of us can say anything. I go to lottie for 6-7h sometimes, and he's still playing when I get back...

Sometimes we laugh about who's the kettle and who's the pot.

The cat just ignores us and sleeps all the time!

moonbells

[MrsKP]

mine plays poker on-line constantly.  we met on-line and if we have a bit of a blow up, we go to work and e-mail each other to sort it out.  then we get home and everyting's fine, until the next time.  we have two computers that sit side by side and occasionally raise our heads and look at each other !   ;D

he keeps saying he doesn't mind helping me in the garden, but i've got three huge sheets of perspex still lying up the side of the house not yet turned into windbreaks.

this thread is becoming a bit of a sounding board for a few of us eh ?

i've stored the chilli trick though, just in case !  and as it's my house and my washing machine, if he were ever to move out, i'll be sure and look behind the powder compartment.

;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

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